Your Wedding YOUR rules...right?

To live life without rules is to invite chaos..

All vendors and venues follow a set of "rules" that determine how they do business.  From deadlines to no parking areas,  it all comes together for a greater purpose. YOUR SUCCESSFUL EVENT.
 
For example, let's say your dinner was scheduled to begin at 6:00pm, If the previous event didn't end when they were supposed to, the venue would not have enough time to prepare it for you. Your set up time would be pushed back. It pretty much goes downhill, for all concerned, from there.

Or what if you decided to save some money by hanging some additional items to the lights that the decor company put up. Never mind, the rule that says, any hanging MUST be done by them. An hour into your event the cable comes crashing down, or the power has tripped and you were left in the dark. How about the rule about maximum number of guests and the sewage had had just about enough. you might not see the reasoning behind each rule and find some silly and unnecessary, but a closer look will reveal there is more than just reason, there is experience. Trust the professionals.

How to play by the rules an STILL be in control.

• Take a deep breath. No it's not always the best answer, BUT it gives you pause to find a better one.
  
• Adopt the mindset that there is no way around rules,  plan to adhere to them. When you are already in that thought pattern, it's less likely you will be dreaming up ways to skirt the dos and don'ts.
  
• Prepare your own list of deal breakers, because you don't have to accept every rule. Shop around for another professional or another venue that's a better fit.
• Ask questions. Find out exactly what is your responsibility and what you can expect the professional to handle.
• Even more importantly, is the law. Above all else, NEVER break the law. Did you know that Hawaii requires a permit for sparklers? Ask Sara, from Jots of Thoughts, her kind of attention to detail is key when shopping for a planner.  You could pay a hefty fine for buying them off the internet and using them here. Check to see if you or your vendor/planner is buying them from a business, who is permitted to sell them in Hawaii, or you could foot the bill. p.s. Amazon or any other wedding site, is NOT licensed to sell  fireworks, a.k.a sparklers in Hawaii. Just cause it can be mailed here doesn't mean it's permitted.