Professional Insight On A Deeply Personal Level
Today is unlike any other day. It's OUR anniversary...yipeeee.
So it got me thinking. How did we get to this place, why are we are so good together?
I am a believer in marriage and that it is ordained by God. God created man and woman to compliment each other, so differences are good.
Sounds easy enough, right? Well..all good things come from God so YES, but if you allow the differences to become a distraction or disturbance then you've got trouble.
Just like renewing your mind daily to get closer to God, renew your mind daily to stay close to your spouse. Re-read the chapter of your first date. Remember how much you wanted it to be perfect and how many times you changed what you were wearing. Tell your kids about the fun you had when you went on long drives and the silly songs you would sing out loud... in odd voices. Daydream about your first kiss and how you couldn't get close enough, wishing it would never end.
Our tidbits for togetherness...
C..O..M..M..M..U..N..I..C..A..T..E. Neither of you will understand each other completely, but be a open book so deceit can't creep in.
Remember NOBODY is perfect. When you first met, you could only see the good in him or her. Intentionally look past the irritation (Honey this on is mostly for ME)
Marry with NO intent to divorce. Don't make a plan for "what if".Be all in. Marriage is not 50/50, it's 100/100.
Water your own grass, and your grass will always be greener.
Open your heart, purge the damage from before. Don't let past hurt into your future
Challenge each other to excel. Be confident enough to let your partner shine
Forgive yourself, when you fall into a rut, then make a change. There is no time like the present
Put God first. You will need him when disappointment comes, and it will. He will fill the need your spouse can't
And lastly, GROW. You will never be the same as you were years ago. Allow yourself to change and love who your husband or wife is becoming.
The short answer is YES!
Not everyone can afford a really good one. So make a list of what you have the capacity to do yourself and what you need help with. Next, make some calls.
You should check the reputation of your planner. Read posts about them, check their Facebook and Pinterest pages. See what education they have or years in the biz. The Better Business Bureau can give you insight as well. Look at photos of actual weddings.
I attended a planning session with a bride and her family a while back, and overheard the bride say (as she walked away), "they just don't get it".
Can't say no? A strong planner will help you smooth ruffled feathers and step in to tactfully deny or accept "help". Unfortunately there was no planner and the wedding night ended with a lot of regret.
Today's planners offer a whole lot more than they used to. Chances are you can tailor a package to fit your needs.